Where are all the Extraterrestrials?

I have concluded extraterrestrials simply either do not exist or do not want to directly communicate with us humans.

If you look at it from the human perspective, extraterrestrials do not openly communicate with us. They abduct and experiment on us, and erase our memories of being abducted by them. Humans want and need to know why extraterrestrials are doing these things to us but the extraterrestrials never tell humans anything.

This brings me to my next statement. Why should humans care about extraterrestrials in the first place? Humans have no reason to care about them. Extraterrestrials just interfere with our minds, block our ability to think and solve problems concerning them, and leave us worse off emotionally than if we had never encountered them in the first place. As far as I can tell extraterrestrials do not care about us humans. Some want to eat us, others experiment on us or talk to us about what we do not know. We just can't remember anything for the most part.

Extraterrestrials have yet to identify themselves as anything that lives off the Earth. In fact, humans are still trying to figure out if extraterrestrials are real entities and not just some form of hallucination. Extraterrestrials don't care how their communication/contact with us really affects us. Why should we really care about them?

They believe we humans are violent and primitive. Yes, we are, but contact with extraterrestrials does not help us to be less violent. We can't help being a primitive species. Just look at what we have to work with and how we live. Our species is not a united species rather a species that acts on an individual person's ability to function and join a community that acts as a group that unites our species as a whole. I will not defend the human species for it's actions. At times, I can be violent myself - verbally violent mostly.

Humans are an angry species. We don't know where we came from, and no-one out there is willing to tell us where we came from or how we got here. What's worse is extraterrestrials think of us as violent yet they still hang around us. What the heck for? To learn from us? Why would any species want to learn how to be more violent is beyond me? To understand us? They are not trying to understand us. If they were trying to understand us they would ask us questions about why we do things? As that has never happened we can only assume all extraterrestrials have another agenda for being here. We humans don't have any answers about anything. If they truly understood our species extraterrestrials would not judge us at all. If they loved us they would talk to us as any human mother would talk to their child.